ok, just something to put out here, while i try to track this down. i’ve now found the “email black hole” is affecting multiple accounts (multiple servers, multiple systems, multiple addresses), and still no pattern. i’ve even had one report of mail to a gmail account gone missing – and anecdotal comments about hotmail losing stuff (but i’m not in the hotmail loop). part of the problem is that i don’t know how long this “black hole” situation has been going on, so i don’t know how far back i need to dig into hanging conversations.
oddly enough, some email is coming in delayed – i just saw stuff that was sent several days ago, so there may be some hope for your messages. outbound messages have also apparently been lost, but so far i’ve only been able to find that in one case (could be an individual spam filter.
for now, i’ve turned everything i’ve got down (and oh, boy, the spam flood is on), looking for people that i know.
if you’ve sent me something and you have not heard from me yet, chances are i didn’t see what you sent. try a backup approach. i’m not ignoring you intentionally!